Hi mcol. I'm glad you're feeling hopeful about putting it all back together again. Welcome aboard.
I'll echo Cat's advice: be patient, keep expections low, take it slow, work on the things inside yourself that you know are problems in the R. When you find yourself jumping to conclusions, find ways to stop and calm yourself...and then work towards being able to share your feelings with her in positive ways (if/when she's ready).
We'll be happy to help.
And thank you for your sacrifice in service to our country. I'm so sorry you're in this sitch.
