A personal journey through Karen's eyes

[Dom R]

Maybe you can't "have it all."

I guess I would like to believe that I can "have it all" if I am reasonably willing to "be it all" myself. IOW, if I have all my animals in reasonably functioning order then I can expect the same of my partner. Less "tit for tat" and more "tit for tit" and "tat for tat".

I agree with the first sentance, but disagree on the rest of it.
You make it sound like, "if i know what I want, then I can get it ". ie: "it's all about ME, and knowing what *I* want".

I think just the opposite is more important:
I think that if you want your spouse to "be everything to you", then you also should try to "be everything to your partner". That doesnt involve "getting yourself in order", and understanding yourself better: I'd say that involves understanding your spouse and their wants/needs better, and making THEIR needs come first.
Not "instead of your own". Just, before your own.