I think that's why MWD's Divorce Busting approach is so different. The goal is maintenance of the M over exposing the A probably because A's tend to run their course anyways, why lay down a law that you can never maintain yourself anyways. You cannot make people do anything they don't want to do. If she wants to have the A she will. If she wants to work on the M, she will. All you can do is be as loving and attractive to her as possible.
I can tell you that "be as loving and attractive to her (or him) as possible" was the prevailing culture on the Infidelity board back in my day (what I call the Class of '05). Didn't work for any of us. Not a single one. The only person I know of from then who had success used something of a hybrid approach and had a set of pretty unusual circumstances.
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