No, I read your entire thread. I'm just not conditioned to find an excuse to dismiss anyones behavior. Prior to the 'D' bomb, did hubby take a drastic drop on the important'o'meter after the children?
Did you focus extremely hard on 'being a good mom', possibly at the expense of your attention to him?
Now I understand children are important, I have children. But we share our love with spouses/partners and children, many times husbands drop VERY far down on the list.
Maybe sex for him was very shallow if he was unimportant till you 'needed' something from him, like he is now doing to you?
Here is how to start fixing things:
Question to Hubby:
"How important do you feel?"
If people do not feel valuable, they will often try MANY different things from positive to negative to try and establish their value.
When he cleaned up, unfortunantly he was looking for fireworks, and a sex-prize .. this is not good howeber, you need to define yourself by yourself, not by others.
"How does my perception of you influence how you feel?"
