"Jeff, our dentist." Hmm, shouldn't you have said, "you mean Jeff, my former dentist?"
Sorry LFL, but yeah, she's acting like a child. It really is the behavior, not the gender. I'd be just as quick to condemn a man of the same thing, if he were behaving similarly.
I can't recall your situation with regard to kids, bomber, but if you don't have kids at home, I'd be so tempted to spend some time doing something productive, like working out, or helping a friend, so that you're not home when she gets home. I'm not talking about going to a bar or anything like that...just doing something for yourself so you're not "waiting" when she gets home.
Burgbud, Apparently, we don't have any. In her current frame of mind, I would expect her to blow through any boundaries like a cannonball through dust.
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No she isn't. And there is a clear difference between the approach of "you are acting like a child and here's your spanking" and "you're acting like a be-otch, let's just discuss this like grown adults..." I certainly don't think he should say fine. LFL
Ok, point taken. But it still is insulting to the other person, whether man or woman.
Fair enough and certainly true. Hell, I was insulted by Corri and it wasn't even really my behavior. I'd go so far to say that each gender would be more likely to describe behaviors from the opposite as childish. Corri may have been less inclined to have said that to a woman. BF may have been less inclined to say it to a man. Just a theory of mine.
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Going out to dinner with soon-to-be single Other Guy, alone = not acceptable. Should not be treated as acceptable.
And I agree she's not a child. Should not be treated as such. Should be treated with Coldness Way Below the Temperature of Ice aka Our Marriage has just Entered Nuclear Winter.
No, it's not acceptable, but she called him and told him. She's looking for a reaction, not an affair, I think. Give her the reaction, and she uses it to justify whatever she does next. Leave it be, and she gets a dinner out of it, and no reaction. Looking the other way, what's the alternative? Tell her she can't go? Like that would work! Then where are you? Where do you go from there? I don't know, but I think his way of handling it made sense, for this case, at this time.
Burgbud, Apparently, we don't have any. In her current frame of mind, I would expect her to blow through any boundaries like a cannonball through dust.
Blowing thru boundaries is her problem. Not having any boundaries is your problem. Who are you? What's unacceptable to you? Do you value your marriage more than yourself?
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I'd go so far to say that each gender would be more likely to describe behaviors from the opposite as childish. Corri may have been less inclined to have said that to a woman. BF may have been less inclined to say it to a man. Just a theory of mine.