it seems like you actually got the point I was making. My H made a big step towards making me feel loved (something he hasn't done in a while) by thinking about what i needed (sleep and rest) over what he wanted.
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maybe, Ann, he's actually trying to reconnect with you physically because that's what you used to want from him, and he's not doing it only out of insecurity
i have thought about that and that is part of the reason that I've been more willing to go with it. I fought so hard for so long for him to want me like he does now. I think if he had pursued me this much before i probably would have passed out from the shock of it. Sex has always been something that we just do cause it is fun, not because he really cared one way or the other. For me, it has always been a need/desire. that's why i actively pursued him. It's killing me that now I don't really want it. Not sure if you've read this whole thing or not, but it took me a while to feel that need to be physical w/ my H. He's a good looking guy, just not what i'd consider "my type". I'm hoping that the steps he's taking and me just getting used to having sex again will help me get those feelings back.
I appreciate the attempt at refocusing here... not sure if it will work, but it was a good shot!
ann
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
