Just had a great talk with a friend, and he helped me to narrow my focus a bit. He told me this story that he was dating this women, she was mean and cold to him. Well she had a pain pill problem, he rode it out she did rehab. It wasn't all good, because when she got out, her personality didn't change, she was still mean and cold, just pill free.
So looking at my above post, money situation, the affair and the legal proceedings, don't matter so who cares. The real focus is the depression or whatever it is.
I can honestly count on one freakin hand how times she has said sorry in our R. She almost never said I love you, I would say it every night and morning and get "me too" in response. So I wasn't happy before this. Well no kidding, isnt' that why we are here. But I can say the aliens have dropped my W off, and guess what, she is still the same person. She has no desire to change, she is a victim and life has screwed her over.
So I'm going to go through the holidays, and then come January get my D and move on with life. At least that is how I stand now. I'll be doing a lot of close observing to see how she acts during the next couple of weeks.
