Takin them as they come...

[bhopeful]

I've been feeling really lonely lately. It's not the kind of lonely that is filled by GAL or PMA. I have plenty of friends and family around me all the time. I had a great weekend, but something was missing the whole time. Life just doesn't seem quite right without the person I love by my side.

Just journaling I guess...

I've been feeling really lonely lately. It's not the kind of lonely that is filled by GAL or PMA. I have plenty of friends and family around me all the time. I had a great weekend, but something was missing the whole time. Life just doesn't seem quite right without the person I love by my side.

I can totally understand - When my W left last night after being with me all day, I felt so lonely. Probably more so than the night she moved out.

There are certainly emotional needs that no amount of PMA or GALing can replace, and the majority of friends and family are unable to accommodate.


Unfortunately, I really don't have a good answer to your problem other than 'me too'.

So I didn't pull through with the goal I had set for myself of calling her last night.

Pick up the phone, call her and tell her you're going somewhere. Ask if she would like to join you.

Worst she is going to say is no and you would be no worse off than you are right now.

[bhopeful]

Thanks Brit. I know all of us must feel it. Does having your D help at all? I only have my dogs and while they're great and love me it's definitely no where near the same. They are good listeners though.

I just did something that was really hard to keep myself together through. I told my boss what is going on. I was afraid that it's been affecting my work performance and it's been going on long enough now that I thought he should know. He's a good guy and was really understanding. It was just hard to admit to someone new to the situation what is going on. I almost lost it.

I feel like I'm an emotional basket case lately and I can't control it. This sucks...

[jmw128]

umm...I wouldn't do that...she'll sense the desperateness. I sympothize and been there, nothing really helps but time. One thing I think about is that no matter how low or how hopeful I get I realize that WAW is not thinking the same or at the same place as I am. Somehow, this helps me. I suppose it is my healing process.

Don't worry telling your boss...I did that too...it's the right thing to do.

umm...I wouldn't do that...she'll sense the desperateness.

I don't think so. His last interactions with his W were positive. He hasn't heard from her in a while, but that doesn't really mean a whole lot.

WAWs have no memory at all - I she doesn't like it, she'll forget after a few days.

[jmw128]

I am aware of his positives of late...that's exactly why I wouldn't want to come across desperate or needy.

WAWs have no memory at all

busted out laughing at work when I read that...completely unexpected. I need to remember that and apply it to my sitch.

[bhopeful]

I was thinking of calling her on my way home from work tonight just to say hi. It's my long drive day so I have an hour and a half to kill in the car. I don't think that I'll ask her to do anything, but that will depend on how the conversation goes I guess...

[jmw128]

Let us know what you do/how it goes...

[WAWed]

Hi bhopeful,

I've think I've been at a kind of similar point to you past few weeks. Contact with W has been positive, but I have to initiate it. You think great, things are looking up, but you hear nothing which sends you down, then you initiate again and its positive.

Way I'm attacking it at the moment is this; this is flirting, old R is dead, I'm looking to start a new R, which means starting at square 1, so your flirting for a new R.
If I'm feeling down or thinking about the old R I don't call its a sign to focus on me and do some GAL. But if I'm feeling a bit bouncy I'll call, be totally prepared for a rejection, and try something.

Nothing spectacular has happen so far, but feel things are creeping in a positive direction.