have you told your H yourself that you are not confortable with the ow around? for whatever is worth, without insults or bitterness, let him know that you dont' oppose to him having her overnight, but that it is contraproductive for the little girl to be around the ow.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.