Work has been just crazy so I have not been able to get on there or even at home, but I now have a few minutes.
Up date on the sitch. H and I have been working on our R slowly but surly. He finally called and left a message with the C that we are going to see, I left that up to him to set up. To see a couple of things, one if he would and two how long it would take him to. It only took him about a week and a half, so for him that is not that bad. We had a good weekend, finsihed up our shopping for our D and he and her went to a hockey game while I stayed home and wrapped the mountain of gifts. After we were done shopping, that was on Friday night, we actually made a night of it. Did dinner and then met up with some of the people that he works with at one of the local bars(there are so many to chose from here, LOL). So the week end was good.
BUT
On Thursday H lost it...he has been so controlled I knew that eventually he would blow. There was a hockey game that night, and D had confirmation class that got over just before the game started. That was when the conflict started... I got home from work at my normal time, and H was not home from running D to class. We ate and I got changed and ready to go once he got home. He was cleaning up the dishes from dinner, then he started going through all the bills that needed to be paid out of the checks this week, this was about 15 mins before we had to leave to pick up D. I asked him if he was ready to go and he told me to go and pick up D and swing back by to pick him up. I was like whatever and went to pick up D. She was running late getting out of class so then I was late getting back home. Well when we both walked in he just started to lay into D about the things that she had done and had not gotten done yet, and why we have to tell her over and over to do the same things... and all of that kind of stuff. That starts a fight between him and I, because he does not talk to her he talks at her, and we all know that is not the way to get your point across to anybody. Well the night before I guess he thought that I was laying into D a bit too, and he told me that I was there and supported you in the way that you were handeling the sitch. Which I did not think that I was yelling at her that much the night before. But it basically turned into to a ping pong match with each of us telling the other one something that they don't do right, and of course nothing was accomplished out of it.
Now the OM has had contact with me and YES I have been talking to him. We have not seen each other in almost a month. I really need to talk to my C about this sitch because my head is still spinning with what to do. A week before I started posting I was POSITIVE that I was going to go forward with the D and call it quits with H. I was tired of trying anymore, but now I am not sure. I know what I am going to be losing if I do stay with H, and its much more that any of you can ever understand. At times like these I wish I could just go back in time and change history. I really regret getting involved like this with a friend. But as of right now H does not know for sure about any involvement that I have with OM. That news will be dropped after the holidays are over with, I think. I am still very very confused as to what to do with the OM. I know it should be a no brainer but its not for me.
