Please give the book a try especially if you love the idea fixing up an old villa in Tuscany and great food. She writes a lot about fixing up the house and about cooking. After spending 5+ years renovating an old farmhouse I loved reading about someone else's trial's and tribulations:))
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
Fearless, There is a restaurant by us that I just love with a Tuscan theme...it has so much charm. I love the actress Diane Lane and thought the movie would be great. I was than enchanted with the movie, but the book sounds more absorbing.
We've probably been through this before, but how did you come up with Fearless? Right now I am feeling more like the Cowardly Lion. Don't worry, I am not transmitting these fears to the kids. RJ is not such a journeyer after all.
Journey, Have a wonderful trip. Enjoy yourself, take lots of pictures.
Being an atheist, I won't be making a request, other than for you to take in all the sites, take lots of pictures and enjoy the perpective that travel brings.
Scott
"Satisfaction is not guaranteed." Rule #19 Ferengi "Rules of Acquistition"
Scott, Thanks for checking in. You know, I was an atheist/agnostic up until the ankle incident that I have spoken about. That day, I was supposed to do something helpful...I won't go into it here...but obviously, breaking my anke in 3 places, I couldn't do what I had set out to do that day. I could see the door I was supposed to enter but couldn't. It was surreal. And it was that day that I decided that there was something bigger than me out there at play.
If you ever want to email me about this stuff, let me know. Happy holidays to you!!! RJ
fearless, I loved "Under the Tuscan Sun." I've avoided seeing the movie, because I understand it kind of murdered the book.
RJ, you'll get a kick out of this. My bf called me from the grocery store this evening and said he was getting stuff to make tuna casserole (he makes a fabulous one) at his mom's apt, so why didn't I come over and have some. I said okay. I went over there and she and I watched tv and visited until he got back from the store. When he arrived, she went to open the door, and said to him, "We have company," meaning ME!
Have a wonderful JOURNEY... mazel tov on your son's bar mitzvah, and if you happen to stumble into an internet cafe, drop us a post. Thanks for carrying our prayers to the wall... has that ever happened on ANY BB before (except a Chasidic one!!). It certainly has never happened on a BB devoted to sex.
Well, after all Lil, your bf and his mom make such a lovely couple...blech, yuck, gag.
Hope you had an enjoyable nite and the tuna casserole met expecatations.
I must be really " off" because even my non-fazed, type 5 daughter said to me, " What's up with you, mom?" This is not starting out as a calm, centered journey, that's for sure.
Lil, rest that ankle and take some time to heal. Resist the urge to be bf's care-giver. Let go and find the humor. We'll figure some of this out in 2008, or we'll have some fun trying anyway! Remember that the pathway to God can be through the ankle, or something like that!
I must be really " off" because even my non-fazed, type 5 daughter said to me, " What's up with you, mom?" This is not starting out as a calm, centered journey, that's for sure.
((((((Journey)))))) You're going to be fine. Enjoy this trip and thanks for the note for Little D.
So you knocked your husband around a little? We've got to keep these husbands of ours in line You'll probably have better luck than I will
Have fun girl, and I'll talk with ya when you get back.
We've probably been through this before, but how did you come up with Fearless?
I don't think I have explained on this forum. In May 2004 after a few rough months my XH told me that our marriage was in trouble and he could imagine it ending. I began working really hard on myself but he didn't seem to see any changes and in August suggested a separation AND starting marriage counseling. (MC was good news, right?) He decided to stay with his best friend. Anyway I knew I had to push aside my fear that he was going to leave for good and bought a necklace with the word "Fearlessness" in Sanskrit and it was kind of my motto for getting through that fall. I didn't tell ANYONE we had separated and had no one. I worked and took care of our house and little farm on my own that fall and immersed myself deep into self improvement. Unfortunately by November it was fairly obvious that although MC seemed good it was going no where for XH. But I am stubborn and tenacious and I refused to be the one to give up. Then Christmas Eve afternoon he came home and told me about his affair that started in March. I had had NO clue until the day before. He ended his affair that evening (one of the hardest nights of my life!) and came home. Unfortunately things didn't fall into place. After 2 rough months I lost my job and he took that "opportunity" to say that he "couldn't do this any more." So I left this time to give him space. Still remained hopeful that we could somehow work things out. So when I joined the DB board I kept the Fearless theme.
This is important to why I feel strongly about being fearless in facing rough times. I don't think I would have lasted as long as I did or kept my sanity (I think) if I hadn't had that attitude. It was also positive to me to find out when I spoke to close colleagues at work that they had no idea I was going through such a rough time. I did break down around Thanksgiving and told one of my best friends. Interesting that she asked me if he was having an affair and I remember being shocked by the idea and said no. Then in January I did tell another friend who lived close by about EVERYTHING. It was a relief to have someone to talk to about it. So I cannot by any means claim to be a complete rock:)
In my case the idea of exposing the affair was never really applicable. By the time I found out, he had ended the affair so telling everyone would have just been vindictive. ALTHOUGH the OW threatened to tell people and I did suggest to XH that we should just take that card away from her and tell his law partners and parents. I knew they would be willing to support him so this suggestion was purely to defuse her threats. We never went that route and she never followed through as far as I know.
Anyway... long explanation!!!
I wish you and your family the best on your trip!!!!!!!!!!!!
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
Hi Miss IC, Have a great time on your trip as well, and Happy Anniversary, too! And don't judge yourself so much on how you are doing wtg being there/not being there for IC...at the end of the day, he's happy to see you in that read wagon, with your pretty smile ( okay, IC, the HSA doesn't hurt either)!
You'll probably have better luck than I will 