Don't know what I'm doing anymore - Help.

[Dom R]

Hey Ann... glad to hear you had a nice weekend. with your H, even

Something for you to think about...

I had a killer headache (have had it for over a week) when we went to bed, was going to initiate sex, but asked H to rub my temples for a minute, put me right to sleep. i apologized in the morning cause i didn't even say goodnight. He said it was ok. he understood. He wished I hadn't, but he knew i had a headache. (kinda used that tone he gets, but I ignored it )

Do you really think now, in hindsight, that the right thing to do, was for you to ignore him, when you know that he is feeling bad about it?

if you really meant to initiate sex that night.... but you didnt do so because you 'accidentally" fell asleep... what about, next time, following through on your dropped intentions, and jumping his bones in the morning or something?

I know that he probably wanted sex, but he seemed happy to have me back just laying beside him, so he didn't mention it this morning.

again... you avoided it, even though you believed he "probably wanted it". Why didnt you just initiate then?

Overall... great weekend. I think that giving him a clean slate will take work, but i know that's the only way that i can really move forward.

sounds very sensible and healthy