HELP!

[cat03]

It is hard to hear that, lots of us here have heard that, my H had a lawyer the day after he left my home, had separation papers, I also hurt horribly and was terrible destroyed.

BUT... it is not over, not by a long shot. Buy your time, drag your feet, don't mentioned D, dont' help her in any way to process the D papers, I'd tell my H that I had just to deal with the separation and in no ways ready to deal with D, that backed him off a bit. I also told him I understood he needed time and space and I wanted to give him that, seeing that i wasn't clingy nor acting like the furies unbound gave slowed him down.

I know you are in big pain, but GAL GAL and GAL. Excersize, fill your time with positive activities, read good books, join a class, focus on you and when you have her on the little girl. Vent, give yourself time for that, but then, and Michelle says, pull yourself by your boot straps and face the day again, there is always hope, doesn't look like it, but there is.
I know limbo is the worst place, despite feeling better and dealing with the separation in much healthier terms, being separated for 8mths was very hard for me, I highly recommend you see a therapist on your own to keep your sanity.
We all call it the WAS diet, I lost 17lbs in two weeks, that gave me the incentive to work out and thus, felt better about myself, to this day I still do, my H and I are back, dealing still with lots of issues, but we are together.

Stay strong, you can do it, take it one day at a time Ntrain, one day at a time.