Man it's COLD!!! 22 with wind chill it's 19. I'm sure that's not as cold as some, but I hate winter!!
Dropped D's off this morning.. W looked good. We kept it light and silly. I think she wanted a kiss, but didn't ask for it.
She mentioned her riding pants again and said "I lose her Tuesday you know".. talking about the mare. I knew this.. I knew she wanted to ride. She said it in front of the D's and I made a shhh motion. She said "I think you should tell them" I said "No.. we both tell them... actually, your mom should tell them since she's the one who sold her." W: "Well.. you wouldn't give me any extra money" Me: "This wasn't my choice" as I'm walking away W: "Don't go there"
WTF?? Blaming me for losing your horse? Are you that blind? I kept my promise.. I promised that I would never ask her to sell the horses. No matter how difficult things got financially, I wouldn't ask her to do that. She would never think of it.. even if we were homeless, she would try to keep her horses.
Anyway... went back to discuss schedules and it was light and silly again.
I get the impression she has plans over the new year weekend.. we were hashing out schedules and she was making sure that weekend was my weekend.
Oh well... Heard Travis Tritt's "Great Day to be alive" song... I love that song. I can picture myself as a grizzly biker dude in the future!!
WTF?? Blaming me for losing your horse? Are you that blind? I kept my promise.. I promised that I would never ask her to sell the horses. No matter how difficult things got financially, I wouldn't ask her to do that. She would never think of it.. even if we were homeless, she would try to keep her horses.
Well Jar, she needs somebody to blame. As long as she refuses to look inward for her source of confidence and happiness, you will continue to be the Great and Powerful Jarhead that she can blame for all of her problems.
Don't you feel powerful now?
Seriously though, until she deals with her own issues she will continue to blame others for her messes and expect others to clean them up.
I agree..the blaming seems to be a very common theme w/ these WAS.
As long as they can blame the LBSrs, they dont have to own up to their own faults. They will continue this same format w/ all other R. So, I have concluded especially after H tells me he sistill so very unhappy w/OW (and it shows) that until they figure this out themselves..they will continue in the same path of unhapiness. It is not our R to help w/ their search of happiness.
Totally agree... I know that she is doomed to repeat the same steps with the new R.
I think some of the luster is fading.. I'm wondering if OM is starting to question some things.
I'm supposed to go with W Friday to a B-day pool party with the D's. Today when she called while taking D5 to kindergarten, D5 was asking if I was going.. she said yes and I could hear D5 say "You said he wasn't going!!"
They went back and forth on this until W said "He is going.. now hush!!"
I'm thinking a few possibilities... OM has gone with W and D5 to her kindergarten before (puke).. so he could've been in the car when it was discussed.
The other is she was on the phone with OM and it came up.
Either way, I have the feeling that W is keeping the fact that I'm going on Friday from OM.
BTW... started taking Chantix again today!! Here's to a smoke free 2008!!
I go to school to pick up the D's. We scheduled a conference for D5.. she's doing great btw.. well beyond her years is what the teachers told us. She is a VERY smart cookie. I know all parents like to brag, but she is a smart cookie.
So.. waiting for W. Finally run into her and we go to copy a school schedule. She was nice.. asked how I was doing and gave me a flirty look. As we were walking back, I noticed a ring on one of her fingers.. I asked what it was and she spun it around and said "My ring".
Now.. this thing looked like a Wedding/Engagement ring. One of those interlaced deals. I asked where she got it.. she stammered for a minute and gave me a shy little smile and said "OM".
I was pissed.. I didn't know how to react... she said it didn't mean anything. I could care less.. I honestly didn't know how to react. I didn't even want to look at her. I made an excuse (two actually) to get away from her. She asked if I was mad and I said no.. I listened to the conference and got out of there as quickly as I could.
She asked for a hug.. I gave her a half ass hug.. I really didn't know how to respond.
Not sure what to do.. to be honest.. the best thing would've probably been to act "as if", but I wasn't prepared for that.
I wonder why she had it spun around? I did notice that his Ex and her OM picked up the kids earlier. I wonder if this prince gave my W his Ex's ring.
Needless to say, I need some space.. need to clear my head. I've gone from being wonderfully detached to being too close.
I hate that (getting hit with reality)!!! I am sorry!! It seems (for me at least), the tangible reminders of the A are really hard to deal with. When I found that 'I love you' note from OW, I really lost it (not to H, though). It was one of the harder things to discover.
It just took you by surprise. Of course it did. Was it on her wedding ring finger?
She was born missing fingers on her left hand, so her right hand is her ring hand.. (that was interesting at the wedding!!).
I guess I was just thrown by the way we've been vs what's going on with them.
I feel like I'm piloting a spaceship... gotta keep it close enough to get some work done, but not too close that you get sucked into the gravitational pull.
