Hi MTN, Sorry you are going through yet another drama with your crazy EX and the Rat. She is scary! Who is she trying to irritate by using the picture of your son? You or your EX? Either way, she's looney tunes.
So, EX has officially moved on from the Rat? For how long? Does it look like your children won't have to have any contact with her? If so, count your blessings.
As far as Christmas morning goes, here are my thoughts: You and NKK are divorced. It is a reality. Divorced people can be friends and work together to make the lives of their children easier...sometimes. But it takes tremendous self-control and effort on the part of TWO SANE, REASONABLE, THINKING ADULTS. Seems to me like you are missing the needed ingredients to pull that off.( I'm talking about NKK, here) Will it be sad or difficult for your kids to not have both parents on XMAS morning? Probably. It is however, the reality of their lives. Maybe it's time to embrace that and begin a new tradition with just you and your children. You can't have it both ways. You can't be detached and business-like one minute and then sit down next to the Xmas tree the next. No wonder NKK is confused. No wonder you feel like your kids are getting the wrong signals. You have to stop trying to please everyone else and define your own life. Your children love you. They will adjust and eventually understand. Maybe not right away, but eventually.
Merry Christmas, Patti. I wish you a wonderful new year!
Hugs, Spitty
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
