he has blamed me the whole time and has himself convinced that the A has nothing to do with his need to D me.
This has to be a part of their "pathology" for these WAS -- especially if they consider themselves to be Christian. My W has been doing the same thing since the bomb -- continually denying that the A has had any bearing on her decision to D, or to continue pursuing D.
Christians must always strive to remember that we are all sinners, and always will be.
As Christians we must come to grips with the fact that our faith is a path and not an endpoint, that we must constantly struggle with sin and temptation throughout our entire lives. Being saved means we look to the Lord first, seeking our strength and guidance from Him. And yes, we do stumble from time to time, just like anyone else, but we are supposed to try not to sin... rather than embrace it and try to rationalize it.
We need to practice humility in this and not arrogance. Pride is the deadliest and most insidious of sins, for it will lead even the most devout of Christians off the path.
