Jak, PS, and Matilda, I think the reason my W is more supportive in an email versus in-person, is to keep an emotional distance. I think she fears intimacy with me.
Thanks for helping me to see the positives. It's hard to step-back and take notice of them, when there's been so much distance in the M.
I danced without my W on Friday night. On Saturday, I accompanied her to her mother's to help fix her computer. This involved several trips to the hardware store. Her mother was appreciative.
On Sunday, I took her car in to the mechanic to replace the headlight. I did her shopping for her cooking job. I assisted her with her cooking job, and dellvered the food to her sister and family.
We went to yoga together for the third week in a row. She wants to tone her body--strengthen the upper body, and tone the middle.
The recently installed gas fireplace has a calming effect on her. She will lower the thermostat, so that she can feel the heat from the fire. We spend quiet time in front of the fire and talk about her concerns.
A persistent conflict we have is trying to meet her cleaning standards. She doesn't have time to clean, so I'm doing most of it. She's talking about hiring a cleaning person. I would prefer to spend money on something else, but if its important to her, I won't be an obstructionist.
I have a feeling she will only be at her job for a matter of weeks. It's a toxic environment, and she is capable of so much more. I will be supportive if she decides to resign.
She has been listening to affirmation tapes trying to counter fear and other negative thoughts/emotions. I see her trying to incorporate this into her life.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
