You are both people who highly value family and stability and your first marriages were to people who were highly unstable. So, it's like you both "shopped" for the opposite for your second marital partner and ended up with problems on the other end of the dysfunctional spectrum. . . . IOW, your choice of second marital partner was reflective of lingering fusion from your first marriage.
Yep. There are many things about MsHdog that are 180 degrees opposite from XW. But there are similarities, too, such as strength of character, little fear of confrontation, and some narcissistic tendencies (e.g. blame shifting).
Still, I do think that MsHdog is a much better person than XW will ever be. Can't really compare the two as wives, as they each had their highs and lows and it's difficult to quantify those points. XW was more fun and willing in the sack, but W is more stable and dependable and consistent as a "partner." Maybe you can't "have it all."
