Here we go 'round in circles...

[Jen_Jam]

I *finally* feel like I'm turning that corner. Finally, after how long? A year and seven months? The effects of the bomb in a marriage are long...much longer than I expected anyway.

Oh yes, I agree here. it's in my signature ... it took a long time after H recommitted for me to feel normal again, and to be honest it wasn't until this year, around September, 2 years after the bomb, that I let out that long sigh of relief. I can finally say now my M crisis is firmly in the past and I fully believe that.

I realized that what I really need to do is trust myself enough to stay detached and not worry about whether H holds on to anything I do that bothers him like he did pre-bomb. I can't control that; there are no guarantees that he won't cycle down the same path. However, *I* am a different human being now. I know I can face whatever, and I trust myself enough to know that. I'm letting go of my need for guarantees.

Again, I could have written this woo. I have to trust that I won't revert back to the big old bad demand, pout and shout deamon that I used to be. I won't. I still have the same feelings ... sometimes I get angry, sometimes disappointed, sometimes a whole range of negative emotions but I've realised I cannot stop myself from feeling these things but I have immense power on how I choose to deal with those feelings and how much of an effect I let them have on me. That helps a great deal.

SD I'm glad you're feeling like you've turned the corner. if you're anything like me then there is only happiness ahead. I can say that hand on heart that even if my H told me he didn't want me yes I'd be upset but it would be his loss

What happened about LW's party?