So I too have locked up at the appropriate time since I have been allowed to "move" back home. We are not officially seperated, however, I think that I will continue to post in this area until I am certain that we are going to work on this M.
So, we had a pretty good weekend, however, there was one fight about me moving back home. Essentially, she feels that I have done so without her input and she is threatened by me being back. She does not know if this is what she wants or not. And is not certain that we are going to work this out.
Soon after those comments though, she seemed to calm down and things were a little more normal between us.
The one thing that I am noticing is that EVERYTHING is done on her schedule. Any physical contact, any emotional contact etc is done on her schedule and based on her feelings. I would suspect that this is a normal reaction considering that 2 months ago I made her skin crawl.
I am guessing that I should now be posting in Piecing, however, I still have this underlying fear that all of this progress is just show for the holiday's. I am not yet confident that there is true progress as she still maintains that we are not married, and that she is single. In fact she often makes comments about "when we were married,".
So, I plan to play this by ear, continue to make strides and keep doing what I have been doing which has seemed to make all four of us happier. It is so much nicer to be home when we are not at each others throat. It is amazing that some changes in my behavior could elicit such changes in her and even my boys too!
I hope that this message finds you all in a better place today. I will try to catch up on all of your sitches once I actually get some work done today....
Hound
Me: 33 jacka** whom lied, stole, cheated, and basically treated DW like crap for years DW: 29 kind soul who gave too much to me over the relationship
S7 S4
M: 7yrs Bomb: 10/19 Seperated: 10/24
The worst reconciliation is better than the best divorce