Barbie - this is some discussion relative to this on w8ting's thread - about page 6-7 about MLC being a process of re-definition of the self. I think this is RCR's view also.
I also think that the MLCer meets someone with the same emotional needs that they have at that point - a sort of lock and key.
Your h sounds as if he doesn't have the self esteem and courage to face his demons. And promiscuous women notably have low self esteem. Yes, this r could last but what a sick co-dependent one, as you say.
