I'd like to tell you a couple of things I'm aware of and things that Ex said. Just because it fits what this discussion is about.
Ex told me when he met maggot that they both "UNDERSTOOD" each other and what they were going through. That they both suffered severely from low self esteem. That maggot would never "hold a candle" to me. That I was better than both of them.
maggot went after one married man after another (her H and pastor told me this). She even hit on the married pastor after befriending his wife. After my son met with her standing in front of my ex to speak for him (my son described it as dad being a "puppet"), she did it again when my BIL went to talk to Chuck about what was going on and basically try to hit him with a 2x4. She refused to leave the room. Was so afraid Kevin might actually "get through" to Chuck.
Chuck moved back home on Dec 13/01 - 3.5 months after moving out. Moved back all w/e - furniture - EVERYTHING. He broke up with maggot and we were putting it all back together. It lasted ONE WEEK! He was gone again - right at Christmas. I had major surgery on Dec 17 so I was barely off the couch when he left again. He didn't want to answer to me. Didn't want to "face his demons" (HIS WORDS).
Who knows what their R is now. They got married 2 years ago. My divorce was final the day after my Mom died. The next day maggot wrote a letter to the editor of the newspaper referring to my Ex as her fiance and saying how much he loved her and that they'd be married soon. It was totally unrelated to the subject she was supposed to be writing about - but she wanted us all to know. My kids were appalled!
Last week Ex told my daughter that his wife had a bad cold & cough. She was keeping him awake at night. It was driving him crazy. He was sure he'd be sick for Christmas - so she was to expect that. Told how tired he was - never got any sleep. That was the first insight into his world after the divorce that I've had in ages, other than the fact that 6.5 years post separation - he is still SO angry and nasty and uncsring towards his children.
I don't think about them much anymore. But sometimes their R just makes me laugh. They both needed a rescuer and found each other. What a sick place to be. If the M lasts (and it could), I'm sure it will be one of total denial. He says they're "soul mates". "Co- dependant" mates would be more like it.
I don't believe that anyone who hurts everyone who loves them but particularly their kids can be happy. And in a day he turned from "Let's renew our marriage vows" and my anniversary card that said "Thanks for the best 25 years, looking forward to the next 25" and then is out the door and moving in with maggot. DUH?>
