This is a double edged sword. Exposing the A to all will definitely help maintain your pride and "one up" status but I don't see the results being as positive for the M. Most M do not make it through this exposure and any woman with pride of her own is not going to just role over and say "ya got me, let's work to make this M better than ever". Ideally, yes, realistically, no way. In fact, she may say that at the beginning ( I think that happened in Choc's case), but a long term solution? I just don't know. I think that's why MWD's Divorce Busting approach is so different. The goal is maintenance of the M over exposing the A probably because A's tend to run their course anyways, why lay down a law that you can never maintain yourself anyways. You cannot make people do anything they don't want to do. If she wants to have the A she will. If she wants to work on the M, she will. All you can do is be as loving and attractive to her as possible. The irony is that you "laying down the law" can be very attractive to her in the beginning but she will probably rebel down the road and resent the very thing that got you back together. I wish I had some magical advice but there is no one right way to do this. You know your W better than anyone. Will she resent you down the line if you expose her? Just something to think about. Sorry for the pain you are going through.
