LFL, Brian wrote: "He understood the meaning of his words. The question is, were those the words of a man giving up or just the words of an insensitive idiot lashing out?"
I don't mean to belabor this, but I truly don't believe your "inability to forgive" is just coming from you. I think he deliberately wanted to hurt you with these words, and that means there is unfinished business re The Departure. Yeah, he has apologized, etc., but have those apologies really reached your heart?
I think you may be projecting here Lil. I don't see it. I don't think he wants to hurt me anymore. He knows that our M is on the line and I truly believe he wants to make it right. He just doesn't really know how and maybe still in not comfortable enough with himself to really try harder. I don't think it comes from any place of malice or vindictiveness. I do think he can be naive at times but that goes back to my thread above. I don't think I should expect him to rescue me from my bad behaviors. I'm a big girl. I need to figure this sh#t out on my owm. That includes whether I can truly forgive him or not.
