I'm impressed by your behavior. I didn't think you had it in you. Although, you may be going a little overboard with the amount of money you're throwing her way.
As far as your W is concerned, it's amazing that such a transformation can happen. I witnessed it myself with my own W. It seems like they finally realize that all of the anger is unwarranted and unnecessary. This doesn't necessarily mean you will reconcile. But at least it means things can be handled civilly.
I agree with what you did for her birthday. I did the same with my kids for my W's birthday and Christmas. Although I did not personally get her anything, I made sure the kids gave her something.
As you said before, don't read too much into it. Just ride the wave towards the shore. You never know what can happen.
God Bless
PoohBear
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
