You were all right...unfortunately...

[bombardier50]

So...here's the latest in this continuing train wreck.

After she stormed out of the house yesterday because I confronted the OM, she came home from work early and was all meek and mild. I greeted her warmly and settled on the couch to read a book and let her unwind. Shortly thereafter she joined me on the couch, obviously wanting to talk.

She begins by telling me that she can't help me with my "insecurities." Again with that...I thought.

Me: "I'm sorry you feel that fighting to keep my marriage intact is insecurity."

Her: "So you're saying I can't have friends."

Me: "No. I'm saying that your friendships must respect our relationship. Friendships that damage our relationship and drive us apart are not friendships. And this is what your friendship with him is doing. It's crossed the line."

Her: Various stories of how I've hurt her in the past, the majority of which I can't remember...blah,blah,blah.

Me: "I'm eager to go to counseling to find out how we went of the tracks, but first, I need you to acknowledge that this has become more than just friends."

Her: More with the "insecurities." Then she mentioned how when I was gone last week she really enjoyed the quiet time in the house and how, sadly, she didn't really miss me.

Important note: The OM was gone last week two. So she had a really quiet time.

Me: "Well, I'm sorry you feel that way. Let me ask you this, and tell me honestly. Did you miss him?"

Her: Vesuvius erupts. "WHAT THE HELL KIND OF QUESTION WAS THAT?!?!? I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU ASKED THAT!?!? I DON'T EVEN WANT TO BE HERE RIGHT NOW. I don't know what to do...." (Tears).

Me: Glaring at her.

Please note how she didn't answer the question.

So, that pretty much ended the conversation. I maintained a composed, cheerful attitude the rest of the evening and went to bed a little early to give her some quiet time to think.

To steal a Bob Dylan line, "It's gettin' dark, Too dark to see."

It's gonna be a rough ride folks....