Trying to Cope, but It's Too Hard

[ms ladybug]

First of all...deep breath. I know your pain so well. We all do.

Now, there is hope. There is always hope. Divorce Busting is not quick, and it's not easy, and in the end, it may not be enough. But, what you will have is a peace, and an understanding that you've done everything you can to save your marriage.

Here's what I see that needs to happen now...
Your sitch is too new. Your h doesn't miss you. He doesn't have to. He sees you everyday. Are you a blubbering mess when he sees you? Not very attractive. You need to tell him that you and your daughter need some time. Could he please not come over for a couple weeks. You can forward his mail and pass along important messages, but you and your daughter need some space right now. Here's a good time to go dark.

If you need to see him. You must be happy. You must let him see that you can live without him, and live well. Try redecorating something. Make it small if you want... paint a bathroom, paint your bedroom. buy a new bedspread. He'll see rhat you are able to live and make changes without him.

One thing that helped me is to remember that you cannot believe anything they say, and only 50% of what they do. His words are hurtful right now. He is hurting. You cannot believe his words right now.

Last of all, I pray and I will pray for you.