BarbieDoll your last post made me remember something someone told me years ago; that you enter into emotional relationships with people who are on the same emotional level as yourself. That would explain why so many WAS hook up with some very damaged partners. Maggot's presence when your son wanted to talk to his father illustrated her need to control the situation which of course is a symptom of deep insecurity. It may comfort you to know maggot was not operating out of a position of power and strength, but from fear and insecurity. I know that does nothing to reduce your frustration that your son could not speak to his father alone.
My WAS has commented that OM "has to be the center of attention." I've also heard she told a friend that the worse she treats him the more clingy he gets. Well duh, his first wife (divorced in May) was bipolar. Can we say on the rebound AND repeating a pattern? Its like they fill the holes in one another's emotions or something, fitting together like pieces of a sick puzzle. That could also explain why they bond so quickly, cohabitate, etc.
They are not in a good place. We may be blessed that they run away. Their little fantasy world they create to dull their pain doesn't last for long as reality eventually comes crashing in. That's one reason I think one of the final stages of mlc is depression.
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"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
