Yep pot can do some pretty nasty rewiring...I watched my uncle go down that road... Lisa...does H drink?...I ask because my H started becoming more and more abusive...I realized that it was the alcohol after remembering how his father acted when drinking...I called 9-1-1 the next time he got plowed and started in on me...he had one relapse where he called asking for help...I went to his office...found him passed out on the floor...got him up and down stairs...then called 9-1-1 and had him taken to a hospital...they directed him both times toward the help he needed...it has been almost one year of sobriety for him...not that he drank all the time it was just when he did it was not pretty.... When H was still drinking it was 100X harder piecing...when he got cleaned up from that it made things go a lot easier...I would say that you need to draw the line...like I did...I saw what the alcohol was doing even though H didn't...I put my foot down and told him that I wouldn't live like that...and then I backed it up by getting help when he went down that road...yes, I gave him a second chance but I could see he was truly trying... I think you need to draw that line for your H...no more pot...period...if he shows up stoned call 9-1-1...the doctors in the ER can get him help...then it is up to him... I don't think you can battle this as long as he is using any sort of mind altering substances...legal or otherwise...I hid my H's binges (he didn't have them often) but realized when he came home that I couldn't do that anymore...I let the kids see him like he was...his friends saw him like he was...no more covering up...and I went to a few Alanon meetings just to give myself some reassurance during the initial stages of recovery with him... You need help...he needs help...and you can do this but he has to work WITH you...
