It was so hard to sign those papers knowing what we were doing was allowing him to just die. I do know that is what he wants
Any change in your FIL? Dealing with a terminally ill person any time is not easy; the holidays just make it that much harder. You have to keep saying that you are following his wishes.
Meanwhile, I would just give your H all your love and support. If I were you I wouldn't do anything drastic at this time even though I know you are at the end of your rope. (((Jak)))