Hi Sara, havnt posted for over a week, as I have been very busy with work and I really need a break from all the stuff that is on here and my sitch at home.
W still wont give me an answer as to whether she would go to retro, although I found out that she shredded the info that I gave her a few weeks ago. Why she wouldnt just throw it away is beyond me.
I have been continuing to DB, and I have made myself notes as to what I have done in the past months that have gotten positive responses from my W.
The biggest is GAL, as I had slacked off that a little over the last month b/c of the time change and weather, but I started again last Sunday, as I met friends for dinner.
Actually I was backing out of the driveway to leave when my W was coming home. As my S18 says, Sweet.
When I got home later that evening, I found out that she shredded the retro info, and I am sure that she was ticked off that I wasnt at home. Why else would she have done that? The info was on her computer desk for two weeks, and if she wanted to shred them, she had ample time.
This past week, I just left the house several times, actually going shopping for the holiday, and I came and went unannounced.
Amazing how much interest my W had in where I was. She kept telling me about what was happening in her life, and I just validated and didnt say a word about where I was.
I belong to a stock club, and have not been to many meetings lately, but decided to attend the meeting thursday evening.
W had a christmas party at work, so it was perfect for me to go without her knowing where I was. Came home a little late, and the wife was all chatty about her party and how busy she was at work. I said I was glad she had fun, but didnt say a word as to where I was.
Saturday I got a card in the mail from my stockbroker, and it was fascinating to see my W interested in who it was from.
My broker is a good looking woman, and in fact everyone in her office is female, so the card was a group picture of some very nice looking ladies! LOL
W tried to get close to me when I opened the card and I just told her that it was from a woman friend I used to know.
Wow! All of a sudden the W is showing curiosity about what I am doing!
She has been very nice to me today, and she even said she would see me later when she left a little while ago to go see her parents.
Talked to the counselor on thursday about what to do about my sitch if she wont go to retro. He said that she is probably so far into her funk, that it will probably take something major to happen for her to come around.
I dont know how long I can continue to do this, as it gets harder and harder every day.
I have been thinking about having a family meeting and spilling the beans to my kids, but then I have these guilt feelings that I am going to hurt my W.
My kids are already hurt, but dont know what the reaction will be when they find out about the OM.
Found out that my W has an appt with the OBgyn this wednesday, and I saw him at a bball game friday and talked to him at length about W.
He is going to talk to her about menopause and depression, and he hopes to get her on some medication that may help with the hormones and mood swings. We have known him for a number of years, and he mentioned that he sees many W come to him with hormone problems and problems with depression.
Most people on these boards say that nothing will help with MLC, but I am still not convinced that hormones and depression arent causing alot of the problems with the W.
Hoping against hope.
Again Sara, sorry for stealing your thread. Scotty