still trying...update

[LuvMyHusband]

Like I said, I have been reading DR again, and will again and again. lol. Anyway, Michelle says that we should "Act As If". Ok. I thought about this. When he comes home for Christmas (and btw, he will not say what day he will be here) how should I be? How would I want to be greeted? How do I think he would want to be treated? I want him to WANT to come home so being cool towards him isn't going to cut it. I don't want to be distant but yet can't be clingy. It's hard bc he has pretty much not wanted to talk to me the last few weeks. I know I need to be consistent.

So...I need help here folks. I am not trying to make Christmas nice for him but for my kids. But I do want him to see what he's missing. I also would like him to stay for New Year's, He hasn't committed to it yet. I don't want to ask as it seems like the more I ask the more I hear "IDK". I know I need to be loving, pleasant and kind. That's a given. I will not talk about the R and I will make plans to be out a little and GALing. Also, he told D8 that he bought me a Christmas gift. I didn't think we were exchanging so I haven't bought him anything. So now I am where Mark was. What should I get him?

Btw, my H has mentioned that he wants me to be happy, fun. That the person in Vegas was the one who he fell in love with. Lol. It's easy to let go in Vegas when it's just a weekend. Plus I got pretty smashed there, I don't normally drink. So, without being smashed, I need to be happy and fun again. I think that's been missing. Also, he keeps saying how predictable I am, sounds like I need to shake things up a bit. So, I am open to help.