still trying...update

[LuvMyHusband]

Ok, part two. Setting goals. I have read so much about this but still not sure really how to do it. Input would be greatly appreciated.

1) Work on myself.
2) To work on controlling my emotions and anger. My C gave me a list of things to practice to help.
3)no more snooping! Actually I really haven't been so this is already being met.
4) Stop being reactionary. I have been working on this one by insteading of contacting him when I am upset, I talk to a friend.
5) The DB coach helped me to think of some ways to avoid fighting or being drawn in. When H says things that are inflammatory, I will say "I understand that you feel that way, I'm sorry that you are hurt".
6) I will stop asking him questions about what he's doing, when or with who. I will give him the privacy that he seems to want.
7) no more R talk. But, if he initiates it, what do I do?
8) No more trying to tell him about his responsibilities, etc.
9) Work on me and only me, GAL, my kids and my work!!!
10) I will not ask him to attend Retrov (I did and he hasn't responded) or C. He did say he wasn't against C, but that he wasn't ready
11) I need to really let go of him