KML, I agree with that, but how do I come back out of the dark? I went dark immediately after finding him gone and literally have not had any communication with him other than texting, and I'm sick of that. It's been "polite", but also seems so cold and impersonal. Should I actually call him and invite him to dinner?

The chasm seems so great, and he seems bent on getting a divorce. He obviously planned this move well in advance because he took everything that he needed to set up his new apt. Plus, he texted me the whole time I was out of town like everything was normal, he "loved me", "missed me", etc. And then I get home to find the note. How could he be so cruel and deceitful?