Makes me so sad that a man who was a good dad and family man for so many, many years (25 married) could just ditch it SO quickly. And turn SO against us. And not get better. He has OW, he doesn't want us - it's too complicated.
I have said things but regretted them later, mostly they were screamed in frustration. It has never done me any good. It is what I might have done differently. I have to really work at being civil or even fair and friendly. But it is worth the effort regardless of his reaction since I have myself to answer to and I have to set a good example for my children.
I don't believe that he is happy. Maggot is NOT a nice person. She abandoned her son and H and even after she was LIVING with my H - led her H to believe she was just looking after a home for a friend - doing a good deed. He truly had no idea - the ultimate betrayal. I suspected the affair but H continued to deny it until he got an apt with OW. They fed each other lies to tell the spouses. It was SICK!
So, I choose to move past that. If I think about it - it feels horrible all over again.
My kids are probably better off NOT to be involved in their lives and seeing their Dad outside of his home. The one time my son met maggot was when he went to confront his dad and she did all the answering despite the fact Brandon told her he wanted nothing to do with her - he was talking to his father. She ran the show. Sweet, huh?
My kids are loved and they know it. I do as much for them as I can and I try to be there for them. We have kept our traditions as much as possible and added new ones to fit the circumstances. They wouldn't miss it for the world.
