It is those like yours that make me want to cry. Not because you did not reconcile, but because he is still to this day so nasty and he has for the most part lost his children.
Each will respond differently. If our MLCers each walked up to us in the same mood and conditions and said the same things and each of use responded in identical good DB fashion, we would received a myriad of reactions: nice, neutral, shock, nasty, ignore--in one ear and processing for later or out the other ear...
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I avoid him - he is always horribly nasty. But if I HAVE to speak to him, I try to keep it friendly or at least businesslike.
A two-way cordial relationship is not a guarantee. We can only do our part, not theirs and being cordial to them will not always realize a cordial response or relationship.
But it probably keeps it better than being nasty back!
The idea is to treat them like a human. It's not right to treat anyone nastily. Tough love, firm/ boundaries etc. Yes, but nasty just damages our own Selves.
