Mopsey, No one knows where your h is in his crisis and that's why it's so very important to continue on w/your life and continue to keep the focus on you and your children. Your h has made a step in the right direction by seeking assistance. Yes, the meds are going to take some time for adjustment, but if he's mixing them w/alcohol, that's not good.
The therapist will listen and helpy your h explore the areas of his life and give him plenty to think about. The huge question will be--Will he continue or will he give up too early and use every excuse in the books not to go? It's too soon to tell what the outcome will be on his treatment, but I do hope and pray that he will continue. He needs to explore what's eating at him so that he can find a way to accept himself, his past life and move forward and be reunited w/his family.
As for you and the children, it sounds like you have Christmas ready to rock and roll. If you h doesn't mention his family's activities, pick up the phone and ask what they are planning and see if the door will open a bit for you to ask if the children can attend. Mopsey, there is one thing I learned a long time ago, don't assume that your man in crisis will do everything the way he use to. You can't rely on him, especially right now. You must rely on yourself at all times and that's why you may need to call your inlaws to see what's happening so that your children aren't left out.
Rest and enjoy the day, for tomorrow will bring another busy one for you w/the count down to Christmas.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
