Ellis. Your situation is happening so fast. Most of us at least have time on our side, to take in the horrible news (bomb of A, spouse leaving, etc) one piece by one piece.
Now. Onto your 6 yr old and you. No more talk of your H. He is taking care of himself, so we don't need to worry about him. Tell yourself over and over "Its his mess, its his mess....". Your daughter needs/deserves a consistent, involved mom so much at this moment. She is treading water and needs help. You have got to kick in here. Here is how I thought when I was in your stage..."I have an hour. I can avoid my daughters, cry, and wallow. Or I can sit and play Barbies and pass the hour that way". Time will move on, how you spend it is your choice. Please try to take that one step forward.
I know all about the self esteem and confidence thing. What will help you bring that back for yourself is knowing you are taking care of your daughter, you are stepping up, being the better person, being consistent with your love for her.
Please take care. I know how you feel. I was there in July.
