Bomb, this is NOT necessarily a mess... really. Think of a remodeling job: the first thing you do is tear down a few walls, use sledgehammers, haul stuff away-- then you clear the space and see what you can rebuild. Now is not the time to panic-- at least not in front of her. Hang tough.

Originally Posted By: Bonb
The OM was actually very good...he cut the conversation off after a few minutes.

This speaks VOLUMES to me! The cosy, secret world they had built is coming down.

You said you think she's about to walk. Well, honey, that has been the case all along. You can't change that or count on her to stick around EVER. No one on this board can, and no one in life can. She is responsible for herself and her own actions. You can't nail her feet to the floor.

I can GUARANTEE that no matter what she says on the outside, inside she is nodding her head to your integrity, your willingness to risk ALL to save the marriage, and the stand you are taking.

Fasten your seatbelt... it's going to be a bumpy ride... but I don't see this plane crashing.