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Good line Matilda! NewH: You are right about taking care of my needs as well. I've got some good friends here who tell me the same thing every day.

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How are you today, FLTC? It must be hard to be so far away and dealing with everything you are dealing with. Hope today is a better day. (((FLTC)))

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Thanks. I'm OK, but you know.....

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So what are you doing for yourself? Me? I called a friend I knew would cheer me up.

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FLTC, if you're too tired to DB then take a breather, don't do it for a bit but taking a breather is probably considered some kind of 180 anyway! You must take care of yourself or you can't work on the R, simple truth. This stuff can suck the life right out of you, don't let it win FLTC. You'll be fine if you take care of you. So, feel your pain, we all need to and then get your butt in gear and get back to work. I know there are days you just feel you can't see the blue sky for all those damn rain clouds but, you know what, the next day it seems so much better. It's just the way life goes.
Hang on, guy!


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Thanks, wii. You're right. I'm emotionally exhausted...... The holidays are tough, but would be worse if I was home. I would be expected to buy a tree and decorate it with my kids in the house I used to live in "for the kids sake". That literally ripped my heart out last year. I can't even look at pictures of my kids when they were younger. Thats for MY sake and emotional survival. (If we were looking for the kids sake here, W. would not amputate the fatehr from the house, so why should I feel guilty?)


There is NO sign of any progress. No emails, nothing. Heard from my D1 that she was in the top 3% of all kids who took the PSATs nationwide. Not an email from W even to give me this good news.

Your CB story sounds a little like what's going on with me right now. I have a woman form work who occassionally emails me, and has made it not secret to a mutual friend that she is interested in me. She is bright, hard-working, successful, and right now very appealing, but I have not crossed any line. I receive a number of meials from women I work with, and I write them all back, and she is no different.

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Checking in, FLTC. Remember my suggestion about listing positives about being separated? This is not to mean that we LIKE being separated, but just trying to put a positive spin on things that we have no choice about. I have one positive re. meals: cooking dinner is easy now. I can leave off the meat and potatoes and just cook broccoli if I want. I have not read all your earlier posts, FLTC, but I get the feeling your wife was not necessarily easy to live with. Can you tell me just one good thing about being separated?

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Call it what you want. Shrinks call it cognitive redirect, I bought a book calling it ReLabel but Matilda's right.

What is the alternative? If it makes you feel better 1 hour a day then that's one hour you feel better.

Go ahead and Vent. Then tell us the one thing at the end.
What's that one thing?


"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work"
Steve Martin



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Not much new to report. I'm 6K miles away. I really miss having my family together, and am not sure how my WAW can do this to a family. Sorry no answer to this, musing, rambling, etc......as we say when we brief "NSTR": Nothing Significant to Report"

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