Did you guys ever lose your connection altogether? Was there a time when she treated you almost like a stranger and then you got close again where she started confiding in you? Just curious.
Back in August/September she was very distant. She would go out after work at come home at 2 in the morning. Didn't eat, didn't sleep, drank all the time. She wouldn't tell me anything at all. I would get bits and pieces once in a while, but it wasn't until mid-October when she came back from a trip with work that she started to talk to me more - Unfortunately that was a week before she moved out, but we did talk about it and we both agreed that some time apart would be helpful for us.
Probably the last 4 weeks or so have been a lot more intense when it comes to her confiding in me. She is always more down this time of year, so I think she is feel a little more miserable than usual.
Originally Posted By: JennyF
I know what you mean about saying 'it is easy to fix'. I said this to H about 7 weeks back (S was only a week old)...before I found DB. It didn't go over well. He said something like "What? Move back in and live happily ever after?". I just can't imagine with such young kids how it is so easy for them to walk away from the opportunity to be close to them. My H just keeps saying 'they will be fine'. But why is it better to give up that closeness rather than make the effort to try to save it by working on the M? Is it just this crazy selfishness going on inside of them?
I think it's all just a way to protect themselves - They can't handle the stress of being a spouse, a parent or whatever. My W is actually MUCH better with D than she was in the middle of the year.
Jenny, I think your H and mine are very disconnected from us right now. I know I said a lot of the wrong things to my H in the beginning and even recently. I wanted to tell him last week when he said it wasn't easy sleeping in the car and his office that I never asked him to move out. My H tells me pretty much nothing right now. Certainly not how he is feeling or what he is thinking. I think part of it is he doesn't want to admit he may have been wrong about us and our R. I do think he is having some second thoughts, but he won't admit to them. I would guess all of our WAS go through that at some point. I think Brit's wife is realizing that she hasn't made all of the right decisions and it seems she is willing to work on that.
