DR Chapter 2 - Think Small

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marc,

I don't have much time to reply, but good for you to start some goals.

First suggestion, flip your goals about what you are doing. Give yourself priority first (1st step to detachment).

Second, this is a good start...lets time to fine tune this list down to maybe 4 or 5 managable ones (again focus on you). Then start to form a list of specific actions you can take to achieve them. For example:
Become more Regligious :
1). I will attend Church every Sunday and Holy Days
2). I will Read part of the Bible every night and reflect on it for 15-30mins.
3). I will join a religious group or bible study group.

This is just an example, but I think you get the point. Get your list manageable, and even some look like they can be combined or become action items.

Lastly, your ongoing goals...These you have NO Control over so they are not good goals. These are a list of things you will start noticing as the R gets better. Its good to make a list like this so you can guage the progress, but they are not goals. List a few of these after you goals you can work on that affect the relationship and use as guages for your goals. Take a look at MracDinFog's thread, he listed goals out like this (look at specific of things to notice if R goal is being achieved)

Hope that helps, I can clarify later. Oh and maybe start a new thread on you own with these in as the begining. WOuld help more people to see your thread and respond, and good work for others here in peicing.

Take care and I will pray for your progress.