DR Chapter 2 - Think Small

[marc_d]

Ok, well I have not made any goals for myself and the relationship in ages so thats what Im going to attempt now. I must admit I got a lot of them from another thread but I personalized it a little. Its just that these goals were so similiar to my own!

--What I am doing...
Paying attention to her and being truly interested.
Listening w/o judging or offering solutions.
Validating her feelings.
Responding to her.
Responding to her requests.
Giving unconditional love.
Not being defensive.
"Detaching" (letting go).
Choosing to be happy.
Staying in shape, regular gym.
Trying to watch my budget.
Continuing with 2nd semester of school in 2 weeks(shows Im planning for future)
Giving her space, allowing her to do what she chooses with her time and her friends.
Becoming more religous.

--What she is doing that I appreciate...
Being friendly.
Making small talk with me.
Calling me, text message me, or email me more often.(longer phone calls too!)
Smiling around me, laughing.
Comments that I look great.
Talking to me about her day, her life, her feelings.
Opening up about her man friends that she was keeping private before due to my jealousy.
Told me about who she's been primarily confiding in.
Told me on New Years she is not going to tell me its too late, and that its just going to take time.
Invited me to ski trip with her friends and wanted me in her cabin with her and friends.
Changed her mind to drive up to cabin with me instead of her guy friend.
She has been making herelf look nice for me.
Opened my car door after I opened hers as I walked around.

--Ongoing Goals (one small step at a time)...
That she would touch me more
That she will continue to open up to me.
That she would choose to spend more time with me.
That she would suggest us doing an activities together.
That she would ask me out on a "date".
That she will talk about us more.
That she would hug me or give me a small kiss.
That she would choose to do something special for me
That she would say that she is interested in talking about how our relationship could work.
That she would say or imply that there is more of a chance for our relationship.
That she would say that she would like to focus on us and our relationship.