You are welcome, sounds like he is trying to be reasonable and being nice. There are bound to be bumps, times in the future when you'll feel like screaming, don't hold your breath hoping that there wont' b any more altercations, the key is HOW you deal with them when they come (because they will). We prove what kind of people we are during conflict, anyone is at their best when things are alright, but it takes a lot of character to keep your cool when things go bad, when people are ugly to you.
Now, think way way back, before kids, even before H, what were your interests? what did you like to do that you can begin doing again to fill the time when kids are away, find that balance within yourself.
If anyone asks me how am i doing, I say I'm doing fine, I'm just great--my sitch might not be going well, my M might not be the way it should be, but I have *peace* , the kind no one can take away, the kind that carries me through the worst things. Find your faith again, that's what gets me going everyday.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
