Thanks All, Hearing that others are/have been dealing with this issue in itself is helpful as it reassures us this can be done. W8ing you raised another issue which is to what degree should the kids have input to the decision process. I asked my daughter whose house would she rather be at for Christmas when she realized they would be with me the week of Christmas. Being the smart little outside the box thinker she is she replied, "I want to be with both of you" (mom AND dad). When I told WAW she was upset and told me I should never ask the kids to choose between us. That's not exactly what I was doing, her comments may have been partially fueled by guilt. I am glad to see others value and respect the input of their children in this situation.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
