I am trying to follow some major rules such as thought stopping and thinking about what I am looking to achieve from what I will do or say next.
Examples:
When I think of her hanging out with friends and especially her guy friends, I ignore it and remember all the psotives I have seen from her when I let her have her own time without complaints.
I have also learned to bite my tounge in many situations when she brings up the guy friend she seems to hang out with most. In the beginning of the break, and just befre the break, I complained about him and said not to trust him and she eventually stopped talking about him at all.
But now, she does talk to my about him. Shows she is trusting me again now that I have learned to bite my tounge! Also, This saturday her sisters are throwing a V-day party in the city at their apt. and she asked if I was going. I told her im going to the city with a friend and maybe ill stop by. She said she wasnt sure is she was going because this guy friend of hers wants to come to NJ to buy stuff for the upcoming ski trip cause she told him that places are cheaper in jersey. Anyways, i didnt say anything and she even said how she doesnt know why he wants to come all the way here and she doesnt even sound too interested in doing it, but I think she feels obligated because he is her friend. But, Im not letting it get to me. She is trusting me again. She is telling me all about her friends and her MF which is a big step!
Sorry for all the posts! I cant stop the positive thoughts from coming into my head and its exciting. I need to express it. I am praying I can be strong during V-day if I dont see her, and what should have been our 8 yr anniv. is on Feb. 23rd. I hope that strikes a cord in her.
I got a great V-day card for her that is very touching but not romantic. Its mainly about being such good friends and how much the friendship means to me. I showed it to my good friend who has been my main line of support and he thinks its great. She better love it, hell it makes me feel like crying when I read it! ha ha. ok, im done for today. I think...
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