Your trip sounds like it was very positive, Brit. I am amazed at all the things your wife told you. It really sounds like she is looking deep within herself and realizes that you both need or needed to change. It must have felt great to cuddle with her in the morning and feel that connection again.
W really tells me a lot of things - I know I don't get the whole truth or everything that is on her mind, but she shares a great deal. I know she probably doesn't tell other folks, including OM, half of what she tells me.
Cuddling in bed was nice - It was a good chance to 'test the waters' and see what she would tolerate. She has always been pretty verbal about things she doesn't want me to do, but so far she hasn't told me 'no'.
Originally Posted By: lizzy
It is so hard when they say they are being a bad parent. At one time my H was the worlds greatest father. Our H as kind of drifted him and the Ds apart. One of my biggest hopes is that relationship is repair. I am glad your W is seeing that D needs her. It seems to me like she has been very disconnected from her and that connection may be getting repaired.
I talked to my W off and on pretty much all afternoon and evening - She is really upset about not being with D all the time. I try to tell her what D is doing and the fun we have together, but recently she is finding it really hard to deal with. In the last few weeks, when we are together with D, if either of us leaves the room, gets out of the car or is out of sight, D will just go crazy - Screaming, crying, all sorts. We went downtown one night and W went to get something from her office and D screamed the whole time, then I went to where I used to work to get something and D screamed when I was gone. She has started to do that when W leaves now, which I know is getting to her. I've not gone as far as saying "Well, it IS easy to fix you know", but I'm close
W and I always used to go away to her grandmothers for Christmas - 4hr drive, plus we'd stay overnight Christmas Eve. She has been telling everyone she doesn't want to go because it's too far for D, but she told me yesterday that she can't deal with facing everyone after what has happened.
There was some other stuff she told me too, but I can't remember it right now. She is supposed to be coming over tomorrow, but we'll have to see what happens with the weather. She thinks she has D tomorrow night, even though it's my weekend with her - If she wants to take her, I'm fine with it, but I might try to convince her to keep her here just because of the weather. It takes me 5mins to drive to the day care - It's 30mins each way with W, on a good day when the roads are clear.
