I dont even know if I am on the right thread here but i do not seem to be getting any responses elsewhere, so here goes. My H left me over 9 months ago. No explanation and bascially no contact other than financial for the kids. He called lawyer and started divorce proceedings. It was hard but the kids and I moved on, (H didnt contact kids much either), I bought a house and we prepared for our lives without him. 3 weeks ago, while H was moving out his things from old home so we could move he decided to tell me he left me for a co-worker and had been living down the street from us for the last 7 months with her and her son, happy little family. All very secret and hush hush since she didnt want the reputation of a home wrecker with her son, family or their co-workers. He said he wanted to come clean and try and salvage our family. Well I moved and have let him back in. Now 3 weeks later he is indecisive again. He tells me he misses her and all the great things they did together. How easy it was to tell her he loved her and how he loved to hold her, ....you get the idea. This is killing me. Our kids are so happy he is back and he had started to salvage what was a very strained relationship with younger son (17) When he returned he would kiss me goodnight and hello in the morning and hold me. No sex yet, we were not ready. Now nothing. If I ask what is wrong, he says he is unhappy, what if he did the wrong thing in leaving her. I have had enough of her and her feelings. I need help. My heart is breaking all over again. Any advice from any of you on either side of this would be greatly appreciated. Please respond.
