thanks Saffie. I agree about the pastor thing. I'm going to just try to be consistent and keep 180'ing. I'm getting better at keeping my emotions under control. I read someone else's post that once they quit backsliding that things went better. I was doing better until Weds when D8 collapsed on me. Scared the heck out of me.
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
Luv, I have an article I would like to email you. I had your email at one time, but I guess I didn't save it. I'd like it again. Remember don't put the @ symbol in it or it will be saved to google. Divide it up so that it doesn't save it.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
thanks for the tip yoyo. Here it is Lannn66 , that's my new one, aol com
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
Hi everyone, Ok, I need help. I've been reading DR again AND I have been really thinking about what I've been doing and haven't been doing. My H is supposed to be coming for Christmas. I'm sure he will but he will not tell the kids when he will be here or if he is staying for New Year's Eve. I want to do this right. I realize that I try but usually backslide. So if you don't mind, I would like to write my thoughts out here and would appreciate any comments or suggestions.
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
Ok. First thing I am thinking of is the things/ways I have been. I have to honestly exam my actions and behaviors.
1) I've done the crying, begging, pleading, chasing, reasoning and anger. No this does not work. I lost it last Weds when D8 was so ill. 2) I react to quickly to situations and don't think first 3) I have been to emotional 4) I allow myself to get drawn into the blame game 5) My H says he is tired of dealing with my "anger" 6) Snooping, I have had a real problem with this and am working on changing it. 7) H has said that he hasn't felt loved, respected or wanted, that he wants his time and space, that he's tired of my trying to control.
Ok, this is what I can think of. I would like to set some goals and figure out what I should do about Christmas.
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
