Personally I would be careful about getting the pastor involved - it might get your H's back up - but I don't know your H and your pastor.

H and I didn't separate so I have no experience of that side of things - sorry.

Saffie

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength